There are three types of racists.
The first is your obvious racist. This is the guy who sees you’re not white and immediate starts calling you names and telling you to go back to your own country. These types of racists don’t care about where you actually come from, they just know you shouldn’t be here. There is no conversation about you can have with them which will change their mind. These racists know they are racist and want you to know as well.
The second is your ‘nice’ racists. These are the ones who say well-meaning things but are racist. They’re the ones who put their hands in your hair and say ‘oh your hair is so lovely, wow, it’s softer than I expected. Half-Caste people always have such pretty hair.’ They are the ones who may have some ill-judged attempts at jokes. However, they are ultimately well-meaning. So when you say to them, don’t touch my hair, it’s rude, also, don’t say ‘half-caste’ also, what you just said is a lil bit racist. They are horrified and modified their behaviour. Next time they say ‘half-caste, sorry! mixed race’ and they no longer touch people’s hair without explicit permission. These racists don’t mean to be racist and will try to be less racist.
Then there are the ‘hurt’ racists. At first, they seem like a ‘nice’ racist. They’ve said something a little bit racist, a little bit ‘ill-judged’ and you’ve responded in the way that you do to every ‘nice’ racist. And this is where you realise you have encountered a ‘hurt’ racist instead. This racist responds by being hurt that you have been offended by their racism. They react as if you have done something wrong by addressing their racism and they either become passive-aggressive or just aggressive. Their ‘jokes’ become more ill-judged and they ask you repeatedly if what they are saying is racist. At this point they know they are racist and they know they are being oppressive but they are hurt and you have hurt them. This isn’t racism as such, this is using racism to hurt someone they don’t like.
Mark Sampson was either racist or he was bullying.