Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3: 13
God sent his son to die for us, in order to provide forgiveness for us, while we were still sinful, before we even realised that we had done anything wrong. He forgave us, not because of any action on our part but because of his nature. If we are called to forgive as the Lord forgives then our forgiveness shouldn’t be based on the actions or inactions on the other person. Surely, if we truly forgive then we don’t need to require the other person to tell us how sorry they are, to ask for forgiveness. Surely, that is not forgiving but just trying to feel good about ourselves by making the other person feel guilty?